`You've got some growing up to do missy mo` she said.

I have always been the type of person to feel that its uneccessary to officially `GROW UP` until your in your 30's, and I always invisioned myself being the student at university or wherever Higher Education took me who was not quite ready to grow up yet. Now, at the beginning of my teens, I seen this as a positive. Young and Naive me, thought that living life like Peter Pan was the best thing since sliced bread and Tomato Soup. Running around outside, rolling down hills even with a large doze of hayfever, knocky door ginger and water fights. You name it. I loved it. Yet now, Im at that age where all of that seems like a lifetime away, when infact it was only 5 years back that I was wishing my life would just come to a halt. My mother told me once that I had some growing up to do and that `life isnt this simple and nice all of the time` and at that age, I wasnt sure what she meant. Now, nearly 18, I understand her. Or do I just tell myself I understand her?

I understand that when getting closer to becoming an adult, life becomes progressively harder and not just because as soon as that age dawns upon us we instantly think ` wow, 18.I need to become more independant than I was yesterday when I was 17` because we dont think like that. Yet decisions become a lot harder and more frequent. Decisions of higher education,careers,moving, falling in love and getting out of difficult situations. All a sad yet such a difficult fact of life. Facts which I have faced to a small degree as a teenager, but I am yet to face as an adult.

Yet do we really need to grow up? Is there even such thing as growing up? Or is it just a hint of seriousness creeping in making us think that we have become a mature and responsible human being. A guy I know (who goes by the name of Adam Lister) once said that `life only gets shitter, because you're doing the things that, you somewhat 'need' to do rather than you 'want' to do. ` And you know what? Hes totally right. He is right because we decide for ourselves the paths we choose and so what if everyone seems to think that maturity is the form of growing up. I always think that people grow up to fast nowadays when you look around.

All I know is that I wish to be back at that innocent and decision free age of 12, where I had not a care in the world and where I was constantly covered in bruises with my favourite jeans laced in grass stains. Not just for the games or fun times but because decisions of your life didnt have to be mapped out and was just slowly flowing. Surely life can be like that, no matter what age?

I suppose this is what everyone seems to call growing up time. Yet does growing up have a specific time,era or chapter? I say growing up is open for you own interpretation in the sense that you make of it what you make of it.

Jeremy Davis. Gerard Butler.Dallas Green

Three of the most beautiful men of the film and music industry. Im not sure what it is.I think its the beard and their mental talents. Davis, a god on the bass. Butler, boss of the film world and Green,the main man of an unreal voice. Alexisonfire AND City&Colour. Wow

I also worked out something today.I realised that change is the only thing every single person fears. I read somewhere that `Change is the only element of life which is constant. Though it sounds contradictory, it is true. Change is the most important element of life. It is this change that defines life. Had there been no change, life would have become still. We can see that change occurs in all natural phenomenons such as weather and time. Change is also a vital element in any relationship. If there are no alternating periods of highs and lows then any relationship will become stagnant. Change keeps the relationship and life going and gives reasons for living.`

Your a dancer? Wow. So I take it your good in bed?

Oh the wonders of sterotypical views of a female dancer.Some of which I tend to receive from the shallow parts of the male gender pool.Dont worry, this blog isnt going to revolve around ME stereotyping all of the male gender because funnily enough,male dancers feel the brunt of stereotyping too from parts of both genders. Yes, homophobic comments lie alongside stereotyping rather well and both play big parts within the male part of the dancing world. For example, Ian Murray of Southampton finds himself on the receiving end of `omg your a dancer i bet your REALLLLY flexible,`finishing with a flick of the hair and a batter of the eyelids. I mean come on girls, you cannot expect male dancers to somehow impregnate you whilst sitting in box splits reaching to the floor for a count of eight, do you? And boys, dear oh dear oh dear, you have a lot to learn about dancing if you think that all us female dancers do in class is work on the best ways to improve sex lives. I promise you, its not. People need to see that dancer is an occupation. Just like working in a shop or working with the elderly. Its a career. Its a passion that a lot of people wish to pursue. Its an industry people want to say they `succeeded` in. Yet stereotyping stops this passionate image from coming across.

Stereotyping, I fear ruins everything in life. Although,people stand up for themselves by saying` who me? stereotype? no. I hate it` however I beg to differ. Everyone has stereotyped at least once in their life. About anything. Yet in dance, every stereotyping human seems to have the same image of dancer. False tan, false nails, ditsy personality, somewhat illiterate and uneducated and a bit of a slapper with no brains. I assure you the majority of this is false. Okay, I agree, for a large amount of dancers, false nails, false tan, ditsy personality and no knowledge of anything are not just the correct statements, but an understatement. I fear these so called "dancers" are people who have fears of becoming pushed aside, scared of being an outcast and unaccepted, so they feel they need to conform. Conform to something that not everyone likes.Yet its an accepted (but what i feel is the wrong) image none the less

What people don't seem to realise is that to become a dancer, a good one at least, you need to have a strong will power, originality and intellect. Oh and did i forget to mention, a dancer needs to be oozing with creativity?and unique choreographic ideas are essential to becoming your own dancer. Dynamics? structure? motifs and phrases? stimulus and themes? emotions?

Yes.You need a lot of things to be able to say your a `dancer`.Not just the face for it. I admit, for some styles, it is necessarily all about what you look like but isnt this wrong? Shouldnt it be on potential and want to succeed.Other than skills of applying St Tropez and potential or inserting clip on extensions?

As a dancer myself, I have and never will conform to the category of a "stereotypical dancer". I get told ` I dont look like a dancer` but what does a dancer look like? Is there a specific look for that. No. Just an image that everyone has concerning ALL dancers appearances. Maybe its the style of dance that I do. With me being a contemporary dancer, do I have that contemporary and abstract look about me? You could say that if you see the way I put my items of clothing together. But what if I was to tell you I am not only a contemporary dancer, but I am a hip hop and jazz dancer? What would your image change to?

Everyones different in the dance world. There cannot be just ONE stereotypical image because no two dancers are the same. What we all need to realise is that within this specific industry, happiness sometimes never follows with being different. You get slated for it. No matter how hard you try to back up and hide from sometimes the malicious comments that you receive due to being "different", happiness will sometimes not be there to pick you back up. It is what part of being a strong dancer is.Being able to stand and say ` no this is who I am, I am a dancer and I am different to what you imagine me to be` because the sooner all dancers realise this, the better and stronger dancers will be.